June 3rd, 2018
There are no literal second chances in life. The closest we can get is to look back, glean an important lesson from a perceived mistake, and use that lesson to move forward in a different, more conscious way. This doesn’t mean that mistakes are unforgivable, they are actually an important part of life and completely unavoidable.
May 27th, 2018
Recovery from addiction necessarily takes great effort. If changing a behavior happens without effort, then that behavior is probably not so habitually imbedded into our emotional defense system that it can be considered an addiction.
May 20th, 2018
We must partake in our recovery. Staying locked within our addictive patterns and behaviors takes great effort on our parts. Although participation in our addictive patterns eventually happens automatically, if we spend the time to break down how much effort and energy it takes to keep them going, we will see that it takes a great deal.
May 13th, 2018
Whether we stay tied to our addictions or we work our way into healthier means of emotional navigation ultimately depends on where we end up putting our focus and energy.
May 8th, 2018
One useful way of looking at a life lived within the confines of active addiction is that it is a life lived badly. While everybody has some addictive patterns—they are a part of the healthy human experience—there comes a time when our attachment to them necessarily pulls us away from the possibility of living life consciously, to life’s fullest. Sometimes this is very obvious to us and to all who know us, sometimes it is more subtle and up to us to be aware of and admit these patterns to ourselves.
January 21st, 2018
The pursuit of any addiction is, at its core, a pursuit of fulfillment. It is easy to get caught up in that to which one is addicted, especially when physical dependence is part of the problem. Often there will be so much emphasis put on the substance itself that the bigger picture is forgotten.