Within the mechanics of active addiction lies a craving for control on two important levels. Often the first to get our attention is our desire to control the substances or behaviors. . .
Addictions are a reaction to pain. While we usually discuss addictions from the standpoint of their effects on the neural processes they end up creating, addictions are fundamentally. . .
Recovery is a learning process. Where once we had accidentally learned to depend on our addictions to regulate the parts of us that we had not learned. . .
Addiction is protection. Our addictions develop as a reaction to emotional pain. They serve us both as a surrogate for healthy connection. . .
Before addictions have properly manifested themselves, the substances or behaviors that represent them almost always brought us a sense of empowerment. . .
Addictions often act as a surrogate if the natural process of attachment and love is not properly in place. If we have had to unknowingly build emotional protection. . .
At their center, the drives for both active addiction and for successful recovery are the same. In both cases, it is the pursuit of fulfillment and contentment. . .
The reasons addictions develop are multilayered. Addictions are not the binary problem of substance vs. abstinence that has traditionally been presented. . .
Our addictions are an attempt to circumvent growth. They develop as a reaction to internal and systemic feelings of discomfort and pain that represent the shadow sides. . .
Entering into any form of recovery from serious addictions represents both a death and a birth. But first it’s a death. Even if we genuinely seem to want . . .