When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
Again and again in recovery, we are reminded of the importance of acquiring the power to change from the inside out. Much of life’s discomforts come from perceiving what is happening outside one’s self as being unacceptable. Today’s quote is a reminder that should we find ourselves in a situation that we have come to decide is unchangeable, we must move our energy towards our own inner experience of the situation. Addictive behaviors are an attempt to create comfort and a sense of ease in a world that doesn’t seem to provide these feelings naturally. Much of recovery, then, must be aimed at creating more of this comfort and sense of ease than may come naturally. The ability to change from the inside, to embrace a process of becoming more emotionally flexible, is of vital importance to successful recovery. There is as much powerlessness in the futile rebellion against what truly isas there is power in the ability to adapt to it. Sometimes we can do something to change our outer reality, if not, we must learn to change our inner reality so that we can live with it.