Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
At its center, the addicted life is one of reaction. It is a life where it is very easy to fall into the role of victim—scripted, automatic, and helpless to the myriad injustices and seemingly random misfortunes that befall the addicted. The process of recovery, then, must be one of self-discovery, connection, and assertion. It is very important during the recovery process to become aware of the patterns that one is employing to create discomfort in one’s life, to seek them out and let them go. Successful recovery is the process of becoming responsible—able to respond—to the vagaries of life. As today’s quotation points out, life is not merely a random set of occurrences but actually reflects the quality of the decisions we make in our lives. At any moment, our life is the sum result of every moment that has lead up to it. We are at the helm of our ability to make our unconscious more conscious, and the quality of our decisions will inevitably reflect our success, in this regard. Obviously, we cannot be in control of everything that happens in life, but if we endeavor to become more aware, we can learn to take responsibility for that to which we are in control, thus creating as purposeful and conscious a life as possible.