Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny. –Lao-Tzu
The reasons addictions develop are multilayered. Addictions are not the binary problem of substance vs. abstinence that has traditionally been presented. To properly heal the underlying emotional wounds that fuel our addiction problems, we must trace their path to its source which lies beneath their manifestation as addiction. Addictions arise not primarily from overindulgence, but through a foundational dependency which requires us to merge with an external source of comfort intense enough to meet this dependency. So, while me may initially struggle with the problem of separating ourselves from whatever manifestation our addictions have taken, our recovery must ultimately work to sift through the layers of protection that the addiction provided. We must face this need to merge, eventually providing ourselves with the emotional comfort that we have been seeking from the beginning. In so doing we can positively affect almost every aspect of ourselves from the nature of our thinking to the course of our very destiny.