Relationships are essentially spiritual messengers. They bring into our lives—and we into theirs—revelations about our strengths and weaknesses.
We can learn a lot about ourselves through the relationships in which we choose to invest. Every relationship we choose reflects a part of ourselves back to us. Through the same underlying mechanics which navigate our decision making process during our addicted lives, we often seek relationships based on an attempt to feel more “complete” or “whole.” These connections almost invariably reflect back the part of us that is deeply needy and wanting of fulfillment—the very part of us that we attempted, through our addictions, to fulfill. Unfortunately, these are the very relationships that seem to bring us just the opposite. These are the bonds that expose the “weakness” as today’s quotation suggests. But just as we are deciding to face and be rid of our addictions, we can learn to choose relationships based on the strengths that they offer us—and we them—instead of choosing them based on a sense of need. This way, we can learn to relate based on our strengths instead of our weaknesses, and those strengths will be reflected back to us through the vital experience of relationship.