Addictions present an important opportunity. Obviously, when we are painfully locked within the acute bonds of addiction, it may seem that there could be nothing positive offered by such rigid confinement, but it is an opportunity. . .
Our lives are finite. The time that you take to read these very words are moments that you will never get back. So it is important that we choose, very consciously, how we spend our time. When we are locked within addictive patterns. . .
Recovery is a choice. The patterns that evolve into our addictions, however, usually happen by default. Addictive patterns don’t usually establish themselves through a conscious process. . .
In both active addition and in recovery, it is the little things that cumulatively make the biggest difference. When we are participating in actively addictive patterns, it is the slow breakdown of healthy, esteem-enhancing behaviors that create. . .
At the root of addictions lie the desire to be soothed. This fact underlies a complimentary motivation to avoid feelings of anxiety or boredom. Addictions are. . .
Recovery means learning to experience the full landscape of feelings and emotions that life so magnificently provides us. Our addictions, however, represent a misguided and often desperate attempt to . . .
Addictions arise for many specific reasons, but fundamentally as an avoidance reaction to various forms of underlying fear. Our addictions act as a promise, a promise that if we can only . . .
For better or for worse—and usually a mix of the two—our families, in concert with our genetic coding, establish our emotional default mode. Family refers to the group or groups of people who guided us through. . .
At the root of addictive pursuits lies the endeavor to create a reliably pleasant experience of life—a certainty that we can rely on. The reality of life, however, revolves around the fact that there are no comfortable guarantees. . .
The process of recovering from our addictions is not so much about learning to live without them as it is about identifying what it is they provided us and learning how to provide these things to ourselves sustainably. Our addictions don’t form themselves. . .